that's what the
Say No Course is for
WHat if you could stop people pleasing by learning to say no in an empowered and effective way?
This course is for you if:
... you feel guilty.
You say "Yes" to everything because you're afraid people will get upset with you if you don't. You end up feeling resentful and stressed for doing so many things you don't want
... you put the feelings of others above your own.
You tiptoe around people’s feelings and feel at fault for how they feel. You feel like you're the one who does all the giving in your relationships and there's no time for you.
... you don't know what to say
You wish you could speak your truth in a kind and empowered way but you struggle to find the words so you say nothing at all. You end up pushing people out of your life because it's the only way you know how to set a boundary
...it doesn't have to be this way
I'll help you communicate with confidence
Are you ready?
Hi, I'm Kelly!
I’m a Life Coach who understands where you're coming from, because I've been there too.
I used to struggle with saying no, I was afraid of conflict and disapproval. I felt so guilty because I felt responsible for how others felt and judged myself as “selfish” for taking care of my own needs.
I knew I needed a change but I couldn’t do it on my own. I hired a coach to help me through the feelings of guilt. My relationship with myself changed immensely and I felt confident enough for the first time to say no.. but struggled with what to actually say..
Then I learned the recipe for “The Gracious No”. It’s a “no” that kind, honest, respectful, and effective. Once learned, it can be used for any situation. That’s what I’ll be teaching you inside!
- Kelly Farrell
Does this sound familiar?
You're running on empty, doing everything for someone else. Your relationships have become draining and you feel like there's no time left for you.
Yet again you're asked to do something you don't want to do. You stare at your phone deciding what to say.
You feel like you have two choices:
1. Say "Yes" and feel resentful
2. Say "No" and feel guilty
You wish you could stand up for your needs and communicate them in a way this person would respect. But you have no idea what to say and end up feeling stuck between these two choices.
The new you...
You've been asked to do something, instead of automatically saying yes, you check in with yourself? "Is this something I'd like to do?"
If the answer is no, you know exactly what to say to this person so that they understand and respect your boundaries.
Your relationships are rewarding instead of draining because your new communication skills have balanced out your relationships. You're now getting as much as you're giving.
You feel supported by those around you, knowing your needs matter just as much as theirs.
"I took The Say No Course because I realized my relationships weren't healthy. I was so afraid of conflict or upsetting people I honestly felt like I couldn't say no without it being the end of a relationship.
The Say No Course gave me the courage to start setting boundaries way earlier. It was hard at first then it got so much easier when I noticed how much better I felt. It feels really good to have my own back and see that people in my life really do care about my needs."
The Say NO Course will be your guide in communicating how you've always wanted
Here's What's Included:
When to say No
If you're a nice person who likes helping people, when is it loving to say yes and when is it people pleasing? This will give you the clarity you need to move forward in setting boundaries
I'll also share my story with "no" and how I overcame the emotional block of judging myself as "selfish" for saying no
This is where we remove the emotional obstacles in your way of standing up for yourself.
Here I help you let go of judging yourself for saying no, let go of feeling overly responsible for people's feelings, and let go of the guilt holding you back. This is the emotional inner work that breaks your People Pleasing patterns
How to say no
Here's where I teach you exactly what to say and how to say it.
Your words matter and so does your energy. I want you to know exactly what to say while being in an empowered, confident energy when you say it. This is key to effective communication.
Includes "The Say No Script", a literal script you can follow when you don't know what to say to set a boundary
Grow Your No Muscle,
Master this lifetime skill
I'll teach you the secret recipe of "The Gracious Decline", so you can be confident in knowing what to say in any situation. This is how we turn this course into a lifetime skill.
We'll also train your brain that it's safe for you to say no and build your confidence that you can do it successfully
The Better Boundaries Masterclass: you'll learn to trust your intuition when you need to set a boundary
The SAY NO group Coaching Call: hear your fellow ex-people pleasers get coaching on standing up for themselves
What's in the Say No Script?
A family member asks you for a favor ...
A family member is pressing you to do something with your life that you don’t want or trying to convince you of a highly personal choice ...
A family member asks you for money ...
Your friend asks you to a party or event, they are pushing you to go but you’re no longer interested in that kind of activity ...
Someone asks you to hang out but you aren’t interested in a friendship or relationship with them ...
A friend asks you for a favor, you don’t want to ...
A friend asks you to hang out, go to lunch, etc, but you need time for yourself ...
A friend asks you to hang out but you don’t feel comfortable in a pandemic ...
Someone you went out on a date with keeps contacting you but are not interested ...
You’re dating someone, you’re interested in them but not ready yet for sex
You’re dating someone but you know the relationship isn’t working ...
Your boss asks you to take on more work when you are already overwhelmed
Your boss wants to do everything their way but you have better ideas ...
A friend has crossed a boundary and wants to use your professional services for free ...
How to Say No when:
15 Video Instructions
training by Kelly
10 Downloadable Worksheets
To help you implement the
material in your daily life
“The Say NO Script”
A literal script you can follow when you want to say no effectively